How Joseph Overcame Learned Helplessness (With Forgiveness)
The importance of Learned Optimism (Ruth’s Story)
Meditation & Mindfulness (Hannah’s Story)
Asking for Help (Moses’ Story)
A biblical example of someone asking for help to overcome a difficult situation is Moses, when he sought assistance from his father-in-law, Jethro. This story, found in Exodus 18, illustrates how Moses, overwhelmed by the burden of leading and judging the people of Israel, received guidance and support that helped him manage his responsibilities more effectively.
The Story:
Background:
Moses was leading the Israelites through the wilderness after their escape from Egypt.
As the leader, Moses was responsible for resolving disputes among the people, which quickly became an overwhelming task due to the sheer number of cases brought before him.
Key Scripture: (Exodus 18:14)
“When his father-in-law saw all that Moses was doing for the people, he said, ‘What is this you are doing for the people? Why do you alone sit as judge, while all these people stand around you from morning till evening?’”
Recognizing the Need for Help:
Moses was handling every dispute among the people on his own, from morning until evening. Jethro observed this and recognized that Moses was overburdened.
Key Scripture: (Exodus 18:15-16)
“Moses answered him, ‘Because the people come to me to seek God’s will. Whenever they have a dispute, it is brought to me, and I decide between the parties and inform them of God’s decrees and instructions.’”
Receiving Advice and Help:
Jethro advised Moses to delegate responsibilities to capable men who could handle the simpler cases, leaving the more difficult cases for Moses to judge. This advice helped Moses to better manage his workload and prevent burnout.
Key Scripture: (Exodus 18:24-26)
“Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said. He chose capable men from all Israel and made them leaders of the people, officials over thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens. They served as judges for the people at all times. The difficult cases they brought to Moses, but the simple ones they decided themselves.”
Application:
1. Asking for Help:
Moses didn’t initially ask for help, but he was open to receiving it when offered. This openness to assistance illustrates the importance of recognizing when we need support and being willing to accept help from others.
2. Delegating Responsibility:
By following Jethro’s advice, Moses learned to delegate tasks, which not only alleviated his burden but also empowered others to take on leadership roles. This shows that asking for help can lead to better outcomes for everyone involved, not just the person seeking help.
3. Breaking the Cycle of Overwhelm:
Moses was caught in a cycle of overwhelm, trying to do everything by himself. Jethro’s intervention helped him break out of this cycle, illustrating how seeking help can be a crucial step in overcoming feelings of helplessness or being overwhelmed.
Conclusion:
Moses’ story demonstrates that asking for help is not a sign of weakness but a wise and necessary step in managing overwhelming situations. By seeking and accepting help, we can:
break the cycle of learned helplessness,
find relief from burdens, and empower others to share in the work.
How Joseph Overcame Learned Helplessness (With Forgiveness)
The importance of Learned Optimism (Ruth’s Story)
Meditation & Mindfulness (this week)
An excellent example of someone in the Bible who practiced mindfulness, meditation, and trust in God to overcome feelings of helplessness is Hannah, the mother of the prophet Samuel. Her story is found in 1 Samuel 1-2, and it highlights how she dealt with deep emotional pain and helplessness through prayer, reflection, and surrender to God.
What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present and engaged in the current moment, intentionally focusing on your thoughts, feelings, and surroundings without judgment. It involves paying attention to the here and now, rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Through mindfulness, individuals cultivate awareness and clarity, which can lead to greater emotional balance and mental well-being.
What is Meditation?
From a Christian perspective, meditation is a practice of quieting the mind and focusing on God’s presence, His Word, or specific aspects of His character. It often involves prayerful reflection, deep breathing, or repeating Scripture to draw closer to God and experience His peace. Christian meditation helps believers deepen their relationship with God, find spiritual clarity, and strengthen their faith by centering their thoughts on His truths.
Event: Hannah’s Prayer for a Child
Background:
Hannah was one of the two wives of Elkanah, and she was deeply distressed because she was unable to have children. In ancient Israelite culture, being childless was a significant source of shame and sorrow for a woman. To make matters worse, Elkanah’s other wife, Peninnah, had children and would provoke and taunt Hannah about her barrenness. Despite her husband’s love and attempts to comfort her, Hannah’s grief was overwhelming.
The Message
Mindfulness in Prayer: Pouring Out Her Soul
Hannah’s deep anguish over her inability to have children led her to the temple, where she prayed fervently to the Lord. In her prayer, she was fully mindful of her sorrow and laid her pain before God.
Key Scripture: (1 Samuel 1:10-11)
“In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the Lord, weeping bitterly. And she made a vow, saying, ‘Lord Almighty, if you will only look on your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the Lord for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head.’”
Cross-References:
Psalm 34:17: “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles.”
This verse emphasizes God’s responsiveness to the cries of those who are in distress, similar to how He heard Hannah’s prayer in her time of need.
Psalm 62:8: “Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.”
Hannah’s act of pouring out her heart to God is an embodiment of this scripture, showing her trust in God as her refuge in the midst of her anguish.
Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Hannah’s approach to prayer aligns with this New Testament teaching, as she presents her deep concerns to God, leading to a peace that transcends her circumstances.
Meditation and Trust: Peace After Prayer
After Hannah’s heartfelt prayer, she experienced a transformation from sorrow to peace, trusting that God had heard her petition.
Key Scripture: (1 Samuel 1:17-18)
“Eli answered, ‘Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.’ She said, ‘May your servant find favor in your eyes.’ Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast.”
Cross-References:
Isaiah 26:3: “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
Hannah’s change in demeanor after prayer reflects the peace described in Isaiah, which comes from steadfast trust in God.
1 Peter 5:7: “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”
Hannah’s act of casting her anxiety on God is a model of the kind of trust and surrender that Peter encourages.
Faithfulness and Gratitude: Fulfilling Her Vow
When God answered Hannah’s prayer and granted her a son, Samuel, she faithfully fulfilled her vow by dedicating him to the Lord. Her response was one of deep gratitude and worship.
Key Scripture: (1 Samuel 1:27-28)
“I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he will be given over to the Lord.” And he worshiped the Lord there.
Hannah’s Prayer: (1 Samuel 2:1-2)
“My heart rejoices in the Lord; in the Lord my horn is lifted high. My mouth boasts over my enemies, for I delight in your deliverance. There is no one holy like the Lord; there is no one besides you; there is no Rock like our God.”
Cross-References:
Psalm 66:16-20: “Come and hear, all you who fear God; let me tell you what he has done for me. I cried out to him with my mouth; his praise was on my tongue. If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened; but God has surely listened and has heard my prayer. Praise be to God, who has not rejected my prayer or withheld his love from me!”
Like Hannah, the psalmist testifies to God’s faithfulness in answering prayer and responds with praise and thanksgiving.
Psalm 116:1-2: “I love the Lord, for he heard my voice; he heard my cry for mercy. Because he turned his ear to me, I will call on him as long as I live.”
This psalm echoes Hannah’s experience of God hearing her cry for mercy, leading to a lifelong commitment to worship and praise.
Luke 1:46-49: “And Mary said: ‘My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has been mindful of the humble state of his servant. From now on all generations will call me blessed, for the Mighty One has done great things for me—holy is his name.’”
Hannah’s prayer of gratitude in 1 Samuel 2 is similar in tone and content to Mary’s Magnificat in the New Testament, both of which express deep joy and thanksgiving for God’s intervention and blessings.
Enduring Legacy: God’s Continued Blessings
Hannah’s faithfulness to God not only resulted in the birth of Samuel, who became a great prophet, but God also continued to bless her with more children, showing His ongoing faithfulness.
Key Scripture: (1 Samuel 2:21)
“And the Lord was gracious to Hannah; she gave birth to three sons and two daughters. Meanwhile, the boy Samuel grew up in the presence of the Lord.”
Cross-References:
Psalm 127:3: “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.”
This verse highlights the blessing of children as a gift from God, a truth evident in Hannah’s life as she was blessed with more children after Samuel.
Genesis 21:1-2: “Now the Lord was gracious to Sarah as he had said, and the Lord did for Sarah what he had promised. Sarah became pregnant and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the very time God had promised him.”
Just as God was faithful to Sarah, providing her with Isaac in her old age, He was also faithful to Hannah, fulfilling her desires and blessing her with more children.
Psalm 113:9: “He settles the childless woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Praise the Lord.”
This verse directly relates to Hannah’s experience, where God transformed her sorrow into joy by blessing her with children, leading to a life of praise.
Hannah’s story is a profound example of how mindfulness, meditation, and trust in God can lead to overcoming deep sorrow and helplessness. By pouring out her soul in prayer, meditating on God’s goodness, and faithfully fulfilling her vow, Hannah experienced God’s peace, deliverance, and abundant blessings. The cross-references provided highlight the consistency of these themes throughout Scripture, reinforcing the importance of bringing our burdens to God, trusting in His timing, and responding with gratitude when He answers our prayers. Hannah’s story encourages believers to practice these principles in their own lives, trusting that God is faithful to hear and respond to the cries of His people.
Hannah’s story is remarkably similar to the experiences that many people face today, particularly in the areas of personal struggles, emotional pain, and the search for hope and purpose in the midst of challenging circumstances. Here are some key parallels between Hannah’s story and what people experience today:
Emotional Pain and Longing
Parallel with Today:
Hannah’s deep emotional pain and longing for a child resonate with many people today who face similar situations of unfulfilled desires. Whether it’s the longing for a child, a job, a relationship, or any other unmet need, people today can relate to the intense emotional distress that comes from waiting for something deeply desired but not yet received.
Key Experience:
Infertility and Childlessness: Like Hannah, many women and couples today struggle with infertility and the emotional toll it takes. The sense of inadequacy, societal pressure, and the longing to be parents can create a deep sense of helplessness.
Unfulfilled Desires: Beyond infertility, people experience similar emotions when they have other unfulfilled desires, such as wanting to find a life partner, achieve a career goal, or receive healing from illness. The waiting and uncertainty can lead to feelings of despair and frustration.
Modern Application:
Hannah’s story encourages those who are waiting on God to bring their deepest desires to Him in prayer, just as she did. It reminds people that God hears their cries and can bring peace even before the situation changes.
Feeling Overwhelmed by Circumstances
Parallel with Today:
Hannah’s feelings of being overwhelmed by her circumstances, particularly the taunting from Peninnah and her perceived inadequacy, mirror what many people experience today when they face external pressures and internal doubts.
Key Experience:
Comparison and Social Pressure: In today’s world, people often feel pressured by societal expectations and comparisons with others. Social media can exacerbate this, where people constantly see the highlights of others’ lives, leading to feelings of inadequacy and despair.
Bullying and Criticism: Just as Peninnah taunted Hannah, people today face bullying, criticism, and judgment from others, which can compound their feelings of helplessness.
Modern Application:
Hannah’s story shows that turning to God in the midst of overwhelming circumstances can bring relief and strength.
Instead of allowing the negativity of others to define her,
Hannah sought God’s perspective, which is a powerful reminder for people today to find their worth and strength in God, not in the opinions of others.
Persistent Prayer and Seeking God’s Help
Parallel with Today:
Hannah’s example of persistent prayer reflects the spiritual journey that many people go through when facing prolonged challenges. Her story encourages people to continue seeking God’s help, even when answers aren’t immediately visible.
Key Experience:
Persistent Prayer in Difficult Times: Many people today engage in persistent prayer for issues that seem to have no immediate solution—whether it’s praying for a loved one’s salvation, a breakthrough in health, or financial provision. The struggle to remain hopeful and continue praying when answers are delayed is a common experience.
Seeking God Amidst Uncertainty: Like Hannah, people today often face seasons of uncertainty where they must rely on faith, even when the future is unclear. This can be a time of growth, but it can also be challenging to maintain hope.
Modern Application:
Hannah’s story encourages people to be persistent in prayer, trusting that God hears and values their petitions. Her example shows that even when the answer is delayed, God is still at work, and peace can be found in His presence.
Finding Peace Through Surrender
Parallel with Today:
After Hannah poured out her heart to God, she found peace through surrendering her situation to Him. This is a crucial lesson for people today who are struggling with control and anxiety over their circumstances.
Key Experience:
Surrendering to God’s Will: Many people struggle with the tension between their desires and God’s timing or will. The process of surrendering control and trusting that God knows best is a common spiritual journey. This can involve letting go of specific outcomes and trusting in God’s goodness, even if the situation doesn’t unfold as expected.
Dealing with Anxiety and Uncertainty: People today face a great deal of anxiety and uncertainty, whether it’s about the future, health, or relationships. Finding peace in the midst of these challenges often requires surrendering those worries to God.
Modern Application:
Hannah’s story illustrates the power of surrendering one’s burdens to God. After she prayed, she was able to leave her burdens with God and experience peace. This teaches people today that true peace often comes not from having all the answers but from trusting that God is in control.
Faithful Response to God’s Blessings
Parallel with Today:
When God answered Hannah’s prayer and gave her a son, she responded with faithfulness by dedicating Samuel to the Lord. Her gratitude and commitment to fulfill her vow to God serve as a model for how people today can respond when God answers their prayers.
Key Experience:
Faithful Stewardship of God’s Blessings: When people receive blessings or answers to prayer, they face the challenge of how to respond. Like Hannah, there is often a call to use those blessings for God’s glory, whether it’s raising children in the faith, using financial resources to bless others, or serving God with the gifts He’s given.
Gratitude and Worship: Hannah’s gratitude and worship in response to God’s blessing is an example of how people today can cultivate a heart of thanksgiving, recognizing that every good gift comes from God.
Modern Application:
Hannah’s faithfulness encourages people to honor God with the blessings they receive. It’s a reminder to stay committed to God and to use what He provides for His purposes. Her prayer of thanksgiving also highlights the importance of maintaining a grateful heart,acknowledging God’s faithfulness in all circumstances.
Conclusion
Hannah’s story is deeply relatable to many of the struggles people face today, from dealing with unfulfilled desires and social pressure to navigating persistent prayer, surrender, and faithful response to God’s blessings. Her example provides timeless lessons on how to bring one’s burdens to God, find peace through surrender, and respond with faithfulness and gratitude. In a world where people often feel overwhelmed by their circumstances, Hannah’s story offers hope and a path forward, demonstrating that God hears, cares, and is faithful to those who seek Him with all their hearts.
A great example of a woman in the Bible who exhibited learned optimism is Ruth. Ruth’s story is found in the Book of Ruth, and it showcases her resilience, faith, and positive outlook in the face of difficult circumstances.
Ruth’s Story:
Tragedy and Loss:
Ruth was a Moabite woman who married into an Israelite family that had moved to Moab due to a famine in their homeland. Tragically, Ruth’s husband, along with his father and brother, died, leaving Ruth, her sister-in-law Orpah, and her mother-in-law Naomi as widows (Ruth 1:1-5).
In ancient times, being a widow without a male protector was particularly precarious, as women had limited rights and means of support.
Choosing Loyalty and Faithfulness:
After the deaths of their husbands, Naomi decided to return to Bethlehem in Israel, her homeland. She urged Ruth and Orpah to stay in Moab and remarry. While Orpah eventually returned to her family, Ruth made the remarkable decision to stay with Naomi, uttering the famous words: “Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God” (Ruth 1:16).
Ruth’s choice demonstrated her deep loyalty and faithfulness, not only to Naomi but also to Naomi’s God. This decision set the stage for her learned optimism, as she embraced an uncertain future with trust and determination.
Hard Work and Perseverance:
Upon arriving in Bethlehem, Ruth immediately took initiative to provide for herself and Naomi. She went to glean in the fields, a practice allowed for the poor to collect leftover grain after the harvesters had passed through (Ruth 2:2-3).
Ruth’s willingness to work hard in a foreign land, despite the potential dangers and difficulties, showed her perseverance and positive attitude. She did not succumb to despair but sought opportunities to improve her situation.
Finding Favor with Boaz:
Ruth’s optimism and hard work caught the attention of Boaz, a wealthy landowner and relative of Naomi. He admired Ruth for her loyalty to Naomi and her diligence in the fields. Boaz ensured that Ruth was protected and provided extra grain for her to take home (Ruth 2:8-12).
Ruth’s respectful and humble demeanor, coupled with her unwavering commitment to Naomi, led to Boaz extending his protection and eventually pursuing her as a wife.
Redemption and Blessing:
Naomi recognized that Boaz could be a “kinsman-redeemer,” a relative who could marry Ruth and thereby preserve her deceased husband’s lineage. Following Naomi’s advice, Ruth approached Boaz at the threshing floor and asked him to redeem her (Ruth 3:6-9).
Boaz agreed, and after resolving some legal matters, he married Ruth. This union not only provided Ruth and Naomi with security but also placed Ruth in the lineage of King David and, ultimately, Jesus Christ (Ruth 4:13-17).
Key Aspects of Ruth’s Learned Optimism:
Faith in the Midst of Uncertainty:
Ruth’s decision to leave her homeland and follow Naomi to Bethlehem was an act of profound faith. She trusted in Naomi’s God and chose to move forward, despite the uncertainty of what lay ahead.
Positive Action in Adversity:
Instead of resigning herself to a life of poverty and despair, Ruth took positive action by gleaning in the fields. Her willingness to work hard and take initiative reflected a hopeful and proactive mindset.
Trust in God’s Provision:
Ruth’s optimism was deeply rooted in her trust in God’s provision. She believed that God would provide for her and Naomi, and her faith was rewarded when she found favor with Boaz.
Loyalty and Love:
Ruth’s unwavering loyalty to Naomi and her compassionate love drove her to make courageous choices. Her positive attitude and actions not only changed her own life but also brought joy and restoration to Naomi.
Blessing and Redemption:
Ruth’s story is one of redemption and blessing. Her learned optimism—expressed through faith, hard work, and love—led to her becoming the great-grandmother of King David and being included in the genealogy of Jesus Christ.
Conclusion:
Ruth is a powerful biblical example of learned optimism. Her life demonstrates that even in the face of loss and uncertainty, faith, loyalty, and hard work can lead to profound blessings and redemption. Ruth’s story encourages us to trust in God’s provision, to take positive actions in the midst of adversity, and to remain hopeful, knowing that God can turn even the most difficult circumstances into a source of blessing and legacy.
Last week we learned about the role of Forgiveness to overcome Learned Helplessness from Joseph.
This week we are going to discover Learned Optimism in overcoming Learned Helplessness.
Learned Optimism is the direct opposite of Learned Helplessness
Learned optimism is a powerful tool for improving your mental and emotional well-being. By adopting a more optimistic explanatory style and challenging negative thoughts, you can:
increase your resilience,
improve your problem-solving abilities, and
enhance your overall life satisfaction.
The practice of learned optimism encourages you to see setbacks as opportunities for growth and to approach life with a positive, hopeful mindset.
The Message
The story of Ruth is rich with moments that illustrate her learned optimism, faith, and perseverance.
Background:
The Book of Ruth is a story from the Hebrew Bible that centers on the themes of loyalty, faith, and redemption. It follows Ruth, a Moabite woman who, after the death of her husband, chooses to stay with her Israelite mother-in-law, Naomi, rather than return to her own people. Ruth’s devotion to Naomi leads them back to Bethlehem, where Ruth works in the fields of Boaz, a relative of Naomi. Boaz, impressed by Ruth’s loyalty and kindness, eventually marries her, ensuring the family’s lineage and providing for their future. The story ends with Ruth becoming the great-grandmother of King David, highlighting God’s providence and the inclusion of Gentiles in His plan.
“But Ruth replied, ‘Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.’”
Cross-References:
Joshua 24:15: “But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”
Ruth’s declaration mirrors the choice of the Israelites to serve the Lord, emphasizing the importance of choosing faith even in challenging circumstances.
Proverbs 17:17: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”
Ruth’s loyalty to Naomi reflects the deep, selfless love and commitment described in this proverb.
Ruth’s Hard Work and Perseverance
Ruth 2:2-3:
“And Ruth the Moabite said to Naomi, ‘Let me go to the fields and pick up the leftover grain behind anyone in whose eyes I find favor.’ Naomi said to her, ‘Go ahead, my daughter.’ So she went out, entered a field and began to glean behind the harvesters. As it turned out, she was working in a field belonging to Boaz, who was from the clan of Elimelek.”
Cross-References:
Proverbs 31:17: “She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.”
Ruth’s initiative and hard work are similar to the virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman, who is diligent and industrious.
Galatians 6:9: “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
Ruth’s perseverance in gleaning the fields is an embodiment of this New Testament principle, showing that consistent, faithful work yields a reward.
Ruth Finds Favor with Boaz
Ruth 2:10-12:
“At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, ‘Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?’ Boaz replied, ‘I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.’”
Cross-References:
Psalm 91:4: “He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.”
Boaz’s blessing to Ruth resonates with this psalm, as she has sought refuge under God’s wings, and God is beginning to provide for her.
Hebrews 6:10: “God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.”
Boaz’s recognition of Ruth’s deeds and his prayer for her reward reflect the truth that God honors and remembers our acts of love and kindness.
Ruth’s Approach to Boaz for Redemption
Ruth 3:9-11:
“‘Who are you?’ he asked. ‘I am your servant Ruth,’ she said. ‘Spread the corner of your garment over me, since you are a guardian-redeemer of our family.’ ‘The Lord bless you, my daughter,’ he replied. ‘This kindness is greater than that which you showed earlier: You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor. And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character.’”
Cross-References:
Ezekiel 16:8: “‘Later I passed by, and when I looked at you and saw that you were old enough for love, I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your naked body. I gave you my solemn oath and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Sovereign Lord, and you became mine.’”
Ruth’s request for Boaz to spread his garment over her is symbolic of protection and covenant, much like God’s covenant with Israel.
Proverbs 31:10-11: “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.”
Boaz’s description of Ruth as a woman of noble character echoes the virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman, highlighting her worthiness.
Ruth’s Blessing and Inclusion in the Lineage of David
Ruth 4:13-17:
“So Boaz took Ruth and she became his wife. When he made love to her, the Lord enabled her to conceive, and she gave birth to a son. The women said to Naomi: ‘Praise be to the Lord, who this day has not left you without a guardian-redeemer. May he become famous throughout Israel! He will renew your life and sustain you in your old age. For your daughter-in-law, who loves you and who is better to you than seven sons, has given him birth.’ Then Naomi took the child in her arms and cared for him. The women living there said, ‘Naomi has a son!’ And they named him Obed. He was the father of Jesse, the father of David.”
Cross-References:
Matthew 1:5-6: “Salmon the father of Boaz, whose mother was Rahab, Boaz the father of Obed, whose mother was Ruth, Obed the father of Jesse, and Jesse the father of King David.”
Ruth’s inclusion in the genealogy of David, and ultimately Jesus Christ, underscores her legacy of faith and learned optimism.
Psalm 37:4: “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
Ruth’s story illustrates this promise, as her faithfulness and optimism led to God fulfilling the desires of her heart.
Conclusion
Ruth’s story is a profound example of learned optimism, as she faced significant challenges with faith, loyalty, and perseverance. These key scriptures, along with their cross-references, demonstrate how
Ruth’s positive actions and trust in God led to blessings that extended far beyond her lifetime,
including her role in the lineage of King David and Jesus Christ.
Ruth’s life encourages us to remain faithful and optimistic, trusting that God is working through our circumstances for a greater purpose.
“Qoph” (ק) is the nineteenth letter of the Hebrew alphabet and serves as the heading for the nineteenth section of Psalm 119 (verses 145-152). Each verse in this section begins with “Qoph” in the original Hebrew, maintaining the acrostic structure of the psalm.
The symbolic meaning of “Qoph” can be explored through several aspects:
Literal Meaning and Symbolism: “Qoph” is often associated with the concept of “holiness” or “sacredness.” It is sometimes related to the word “kadosh,” which means “holy” in Hebrew. This connection emphasizes the idea of seeking holiness and striving towards a spiritual connection with God, a theme that resonates with the psalmist’s prayers and devotion in this section of Psalm 119.
Calling Out to God: The shape of the letter “Qoph” is sometimes seen as representing a line reaching upward, symbolizing a reaching out or calling out to God. This is reflected in the psalmist’s earnest prayers in this section, where he calls out to God with all his heart, seeking divine intervention and closeness.
Search for Spiritual Depth: “Qoph” can also symbolize the quest for deeper spiritual understanding and the desire to reach beyond the ordinary, striving to connect with the divine. The psalmist’s devotion to meditating on God’s word, even during the early morning and late at night, reflects this deep spiritual yearning.
The Concept of Time and the Eternal: “Qoph” is sometimes associated with the idea of time, particularly the intersection of time and eternity. The psalmist reflects on the eternal nature of God’s statutes, which have been established forever. This connection underscores the timeless relevance of divine laws and the psalmist’s commitment to them throughout his life.
The Back of the Head: In some interpretations, “Qoph” is associated with the back of the head, symbolizing reflection and introspection. This ties into the psalmist’s habit of meditating on God’s word, pondering deeply on divine teachings, and seeking understanding and guidance from them.
In summary, “Qoph” in Psalm 119 symbolizes the quest for holiness, the earnest calling out to God, and the search for deeper spiritual understanding. It emphasizes the importance of reflecting on the eternal truths of God’s word and striving to live a life that reaches towards the sacred and divine. The psalmist’s devotion to prayer and meditation, as well as his recognition of the eternal nature of God’s statutes, aligns with the symbolic meanings associated with “Qoph.”
Psalm 119:145-152: Verse by Verse Analysis
Verse 145:
Text: “I call with all my heart; answer me, Lord, and I will obey your decrees.”
Reflection: The psalmist prays with earnestness and complete sincerity, asking God to respond to his plea. His commitment to obedience is conditional on God’s answer, indicating a deep desire for divine guidance and affirmation.
Cross-reference: Jeremiah 29:13 – “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”
Verse 146:
Text: “I call out to you; save me and I will keep your statutes.”
Reflection: The psalmist’s plea for salvation is intertwined with a promise to keep God’s statutes. This reflects a reciprocal relationship between divine deliverance and human obedience.
Cross-reference: Psalm 86:2 – “Guard my life, for I am faithful to you; save your servant who trusts in you. You are my God;”
Verse 147:
Text: “I rise before dawn and cry for help; I have put my hope in your word.”
Reflection: The psalmist demonstrates his dedication by seeking God early in the morning, showing his reliance on God’s word as the foundation of his hope and the first priority of his day.
Cross-reference: Psalm 5:3 – “In the morning, Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly.”
Verse 148:
Text: “My eyes stay open through the watches of the night, that I may meditate on your promises.”
Reflection: The psalmist stays awake during the night to meditate on God’s promises, indicating his deep dedication to internalizing and reflecting on God’s word even during times meant for rest.
Cross-reference: Psalm 63:6 – “On my bed I remember you; I think of you through the watches of the night.”
Verse 149:
Text: “Hear my voice in accordance with your love; preserve my life, Lord, according to your laws.”
Reflection: The psalmist asks God to hear his prayers out of His steadfast love and to preserve his life in alignment with God’s laws, linking divine love with life-giving guidance.
Cross-reference: Psalm 25:6 – “Remember, Lord, your great mercy and love, for they are from of old.”
Verse 150:
Text: “Those who devise wicked schemes are near, but they are far from your law.”
Reflection: The psalmist acknowledges the proximity of those who plot evil against him, contrasting their closeness with their distance from God’s law, which implies a moral and spiritual separation.
Cross-reference: Proverbs 15:29 – “The Lord is far from the wicked, but he hears the prayer of the righteous.”
Verse 151:
Text: “Yet you are near, Lord, and all your commands are true.”
Reflection: Despite the threats from the wicked, the psalmist finds comfort in the nearness of God, who is always close and whose commands are entirely true and reliable.
Cross-reference: James 4:8 – “Come near to God and he will come near to you.”
Verse 152:
Text: “Long ago I learned from your statutes that you established them to last forever.”
Reflection: The psalmist reflects on the enduring nature of God’s statutes, which he learned long ago and recognizes as eternal truths that remain unchanging.
Cross-reference: Isaiah 40:8 – “The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God endures forever.”
Key Takeaways from Psalm 119:145-152:
Earnestness in Prayer and Commitment: The psalmist’s intense, heartfelt prayers reflect a deep commitment to obedience and a strong reliance on God’s response to his cries for help.
Devotion to God’s Word: The psalmist’s dedication to rising early and staying awake at night to meditate on God’s promises illustrates a profound commitment to engaging with and internalizing God’s word.
Confidence in God’s Nearness: Despite the threats from the wicked, the psalmist takes comfort in the knowledge that God is near and that His commands are true and trustworthy, providing a sense of security and assurance.
Recognition of the Eternal Nature of God’s Laws: The psalmist acknowledges the enduring nature of God’s statutes, understanding that they are established forever and provide a reliable foundation for life.
These key takeaways underscore the psalmist’s deep relationship with God, marked by earnest prayer, steadfast devotion, and unwavering confidence in the truth and eternal nature of God’s word. The passage reflects a life lived in close communion with God, rooted in the promises and guidance of divine law.
In the examples provided, most of the individuals did not actively pursue those who had wronged them. Instead, they kept a receptive and forgiving heart, ready to reconcile when the opportunity arose. Here’s a closer look:
Joseph:
Receptive Heart: Joseph did not pursue his brothers after they sold him into slavery. Instead, he focused on his circumstances in Egypt, rising to a position of power. When his brothers came to Egypt seeking food, Joseph tested them and ultimately revealed his identity, showing a forgiving heart and readiness to reconcile (Genesis 45:1-15).
David:
Receptive Heart: David did not pursue King Saul to harm him, despite being pursued by Saul. David had multiple opportunities to kill Saul but chose not to, demonstrating his respect for Saul as God’s anointed king and his desire for reconciliation (1 Samuel 24:10-12; 26:9-11).
Stephen:
Forgiving in the Moment: Stephen forgave his executioners while he was being stoned, praying for them as he was dying. He did not pursue those who wronged him but maintained a forgiving heart even in his final moments (Acts 7:59-60).
Jesus:
Forgiving in the Moment: Jesus forgave those who crucified Him while He was on the cross, praying for their forgiveness despite their actions. He did not pursue them but kept a heart of forgiveness (Luke 23:34).
Peter:
Receptive Heart: Peter did not actively seek out Jesus for forgiveness after denying Him. Instead, Jesus initiated the reconciliation, and Peter’s receptive heart allowed him to accept Jesus’ forgiveness and restoration (John 21:15-19).
The Prodigal Son’s Father:
Receptive Heart: The father in the parable did not pursue his wayward son. Instead, he waited with an open and forgiving heart, ready to welcome his son back when he returned home (Luke 15:20-24).
Paul:
Receptive Heart: Paul did not actively seek out those who had persecuted him once he became a Christian. He focused on his mission and ministry, showing forgiveness and grace to those who opposed him throughout his journey (2 Timothy 4:16-18).
Esau:
Receptive Heart: Esau did not pursue Jacob to seek revenge for the stolen birthright and blessing. Instead, he lived his life, and when the opportunity for reconciliation came, he embraced Jacob and forgave him (Genesis 33:4-11).
Conclusion:
In each of these cases, the individuals maintained a receptive and forgiving heart rather than actively pursuing those who had wronged them. They were open to reconciliation and forgiveness when the opportunity presented itself, demonstrating the power of a forgiving and gracious heart in overcoming learned helplessness and past hurts.
Sometimes we need to forgive ourselves (the trait of guilt)
Remember: It is God’s desire that we forgive one another.
If you’re unforgiving, you might:
Bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience
Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present
Become depressed or anxious
Feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you’re at odds with your spiritual beliefs
Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others
What is Biblical Forgiveness?
Colossians 3:12-15 NIV
12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
Ephesians 4:32 NIV Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
1 John 1:9 NIV If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
Note
Forgiveness does not mean the offense is ok
Forgiveness is a deliberate act of love, mercy, and grace.
Forgiveness is a decision to not hold something against another person, despite what he or she has done to you.
If you don’t know when you can, don’t say you never will…
14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
1 Corinthians 13:5 NIV It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.
Philippians 4:6-7 NIV Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Genesis 37:23-28: Joseph’s brothers were jealous of him because he was their father Jacob’s favorite son. They conspired against him, threw him into a pit, and then sold him into slavery to a caravan of Ishmaelites, who took him to Egypt.
2. Joseph’s Hardships in Egypt:
Genesis 39-41: In Egypt, Joseph faced many hardships, including being falsely accused by Potiphar’s wife and subsequently imprisoned. Despite these trials, he remained faithful to God and eventually rose to a position of power as the governor of Egypt, second only to Pharaoh.
3. Joseph’s Encounter with His Brothers:
Genesis 42-45: During a severe famine, Joseph’s brothers came to Egypt seeking food. They did not recognize Joseph, but he recognized them. Joseph tested them to see if they had changed and ultimately revealed his identity.
4. Joseph’s Forgiveness:
Genesis 45:4-8:Joseph forgave his brothers, explaining that it was God’s plan for him to be in Egypt to save many lives, including their own. He reassured them and provided for their needs.
“Then Joseph said to his brothers, ‘Come close to me.’ When they had done so, he said, ‘I am your brother Joseph, the one you sold into Egypt! And now, do not be distressed and do not be angry with yourselves for selling me here, because it was to save lives that God sent me ahead of you. For two years now there has been famine in the land, and for the next five years there will be no plowing and reaping. But God sent me ahead of you to preserve for you a remnant on earth and to save your lives by a great deliverance. So then, it was not you who sent me here, but God.’ “
5. Joseph’s Continued Kindness:
Genesis 50:15-21:After their father Jacob died, Joseph’s brothers feared that he might seek revenge. Joseph reassured them of his forgiveness and continued to show kindness, stating that what they meant for evil, God meant for good.
“But Joseph said to them, ‘Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.’ And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.”
Key Takeaways from Joseph’s Story:
1. Forgiveness Despite Deep Hurt:
Joseph experienced profound betrayal and hardship because of his brothers’ actions. Despite this, he chose to forgive them, demonstrating that forgiveness is possible even when the hurt is deep.
2. Understanding God’s Sovereignty:
Joseph recognized God’s hand in his circumstances. His understanding that God had a greater plan helped him to forgive his brothers and see the bigger picture.
3. Reconciliation and Restoration:
Joseph’s forgiveness led to reconciliation with his family. He not only forgave his brothers but also actively worked to restore their relationship and provide for their needs.
4. Forgiveness Frees Both Parties:
By forgiving his brothers, Joseph freed himself from bitterness and resentment. This act of forgiveness also freed his brothers from their guilt and fear, allowing for healing and restoration.
Conclusion:
Joseph’s story is a powerful example of forgiveness in the Bible. It shows that through God’s grace, it is possible to forgive even the deepest wrongs. Joseph’s ability to see God’s purpose in his suffering, his choice to forgive, and his efforts to restore relationships provide a profound model of forgiveness for all believers.
Learned Helplessness is a psychological condition in which an individual comes to believe that they are powerless to change their situation, even when opportunities for change are available. This state often develops after repeated exposure to stressful or uncontrollable events, leading the person to feel that they have no control over their circumstances.
Key characteristics and concepts of learned helplessness include:
Perceived Lack of Control: The individual believes they cannot influence the outcome of events, leading to a sense of helplessness.
Passivity: People may stop trying to change or escape their situation because they believe their efforts will be futile.
Depression and Anxiety: Learned helplessness is often associated with symptoms of depression and anxiety, as the constant perception of powerlessness can severely affect mental health.
Behavioral Symptoms: This condition can result in a decrease in motivation, a decline in problem-solving abilities, and a tendency to give up easily.
Cognitive Effects: Individuals may develop a negative outlook on life, feel pessimistic about the future, and have low self-esteem.
A biblical figure who exhibited signs of learned helplessness is the Israelites during their journey in the wilderness after leaving Egypt.
Their Past
Slavery in Egypt:
Exodus 1:13-14: The Israelites had been enslaved in Egypt for centuries. They experienced harsh labor and oppression, which ingrained a mindset of powerlessness and fear.
Fear of the Unknown:
Exodus 14:10-12: Upon leaving Egypt and facing the Red Sea, the Israelites were terrified of the Egyptian army pursuing them. They questioned Moses, expressing a preference for returning to slavery rather than facing an uncertain future.
Complaints and Grumbling:
Exodus 16:2-3: Throughout their journey, the Israelites frequently complained about their conditions. They longed for the familiar comforts of Egypt, even if it meant returning to slavery. Their complaints reflected a lack of trust in God’s provision.
Lack of Immediate Gratification:
Exodus 32:1-4: While Moses was on Mount Sinai receiving the Ten Commandments, the Israelites grew impatient and created a golden calf to worship. This act of idolatry demonstrated their inability to wait and trust in God’s timing.
Fear of the Inhabitants of Canaan:
Numbers 13:31-33: The report from the ten spies about the strength of the Canaanite inhabitants instilled fear and doubt among the Israelites. They perceived themselves as “grasshoppers” and believed they could not conquer the land, despite God’s promise.
Rebellion Against Leadership:
Numbers 14:2-4: The Israelites frequently rebelled against Moses and Aaron, doubting their leadership and God’s plan. Their calls to return to Egypt showcased their reluctance to move forward into the unknown.
Doubt in God’s Provision:
Numbers 20:2-5: When faced with a lack of water, the Israelites quarreled with Moses, accusing him of bringing them to the wilderness to die. Their immediate reaction to difficulties often involved questioning God’s ability to provide.
Short-Term Memory of God’s Miracles:
Psalm 106:13-14: The Israelites often forgot the miracles God performed for them, such as parting the Red Sea and providing manna. This short-term memory contributed to their recurring doubt and lack of faith.
The Message
The Spies’ Report (Numbers 13:26-33):
Numbers 13:26-33 NIV They came back to Moses and Aaron and the whole Israelite community at Kadesh in the Desert of Paran. There they reported to them and to the whole assembly and showed them the fruit of the land. [27] They gave Moses this account: “We went into the land to which you sent us, and it does flow with milk and honey! Here is its fruit. [28] But the people who live there are powerful, and the cities are fortified and very large. We even saw descendants of Anak there. [29] The Amalekites live in the Negev; the Hittites, Jebusites and Amorites live in the hill country; and the Canaanites live near the sea and along the Jordan.” [30] Then Caleb silenced the people before Moses and said, “We should go up and take possession of the land, for we can certainly do it.” [31] But the men who had gone up with him said, “We can’t attack those people; they are stronger than we are.” [32] And they spread among the Israelites a bad report about the land they had explored. They said, “The land we explored devours those living in it. All the people we saw there are of great size. [33] We saw the Nephilim there (the descendants of Anak come from the Nephilim). We seemed like grasshoppers in our own eyes, and we looked the same to them.”
Moses sent twelve spies to explore the land of Canaan.
Upon their return, ten of the spies reported that although the land was fertile, the inhabitants were powerful and the cities were fortified. They concluded, “We seemed like grasshoppers in our own eyes, and we looked the same to them.”
The Israelites’ Reaction (Numbers 14:1-4):
Numbers 14:1-4 NIV That night all the members of the community raised their voices and wept aloud. [2] All the Israelites grumbled against Moses and Aaron, and the whole assembly said to them, “If only we had died in Egypt! Or in this wilderness! [3] Why is the Lord bringing us to this land only to let us fall by the sword? Our wives and children will be taken as plunder. Wouldn’t it be better for us to go back to Egypt?” [4] And they said to each other, “We should choose a leader and go back to Egypt.”
Upon hearing the report, the entire community raised their voices and wept aloud.
They grumbled against Moses and Aaron, expressing a desire to return to Egypt.
They said, “We should choose a leader and go back to Egypt.”
Signs of Learned Helplessness:
Despite witnessing numerous miracles, such as the parting of the Red Sea and daily manna from heaven, the Israelites felt powerless and fearful. Their desire to return to slavery in Egypt rather than face the challenges ahead indicates a learned helplessness mindset.
God’s Response (Numbers 14:5-9):
Numbers 14:5-9 NIV Then Moses and Aaron fell facedown in front of the whole Israelite assembly gathered there. [6] Joshua son of Nun and Caleb son of Jephunneh, who were among those who had explored the land, tore their clothes [7] and said to the entire Israelite assembly, “The land we passed through and explored is exceedingly good. [8] If the Lord is pleased with us, he will lead us into that land, a land flowing with milk and honey, and will give it to us. [9] Only do not rebel against the Lord. And do not be afraid of the people of the land, because we will devour them. Their protection is gone, but the Lord is with us. Do not be afraid of them.”
Joshua and Caleb, two of the spies, tried to encourage the people, reminding them that the Lord was with them and that they should not be afraid. However, the community continued to express their helplessness and fear.
The Consequences of Learned Helplessness
Judgment on the Spies and the People (Numbers 14:24-38):
God stated that the Israelites would wander in the desert for forty years—one year for each of the forty days the spies explored the land—until the generation that disobeyed had died out.
The ten spies who brought back a bad report and incited rebellion were struck down by a plague and died.
Joshua and Caleb were spared.
Key Takeaways:
Recognize the Signs of Learned Helplessness:
Understand that feelings of helplessness can stem from past experiences and repeated setbacks. Just like the Israelites, it’s important to identify when these feelings are influencing our current mindset and actions.
Trust in God’s Promises:
Remember that God is faithful and His promises are true. Despite the challenges and fears we face, we can rely on His word and His commitment to guide and protect us.
Find Strength in God’s Presence:
Acknowledge that God is always with us, even in our most difficult times. His presence provides the strength and courage needed to overcome feelings of helplessness.
Be Encouraged by Faithful Examples:
Look to examples like Joshua and Caleb, who demonstrated unwavering faith and courage. Their trust in God can inspire us to face our own giants with confidence.
Seek God’s Whisper in Times of Despair:
Just as God spoke to Elijah in a gentle whisper, He often reaches out to us in subtle ways. Take time to listen for God’s voice and seek His guidance in moments of despair.
Rely on Community Support:
Remember that we are not alone in our struggles. Just as God reminded Elijah that there were others who remained faithful, we too have a community of believers who can support and encourage us.
Take Practical Steps to Overcome Helplessness:
Engage in prayer, worship, and scripture study to strengthen your faith and combat feelings of helplessness. Surround yourself with positive influences and seek professional help if needed.
