Messages and Notes

A Promise:

Romans 8:28 NIV And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

• Prayer is not getting man’s will done in heaven.
• Prayer is getting God’s will done on Earth.
• Prayer says I need you God.
• I’m inviting you into my life

The word Prayed is found 68 times in the Bible. Most notable:

• Luke 5:16 NIV But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.

Jesus provides an excellent model to His disciples:

• Matthew 6:9‭-‬13 NIV  “This, then, is how you should pray: “ ‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name,
• your kingdom come,
• your will be done,
  • on earth as it is in heaven.
• Give us today our daily bread.
• And forgive us our debts,
  • as we also have forgiven our debtors.
• And lead us not into temptation,
• but deliver us from the evil one. ’

The Message

Matthew 7:7‭-‬12 NIV

7 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.

• Analysis: This verse encourages believers to actively seek God’s help and guidance. The three actions—ask, seek, knock—imply persistence and faith.
• Cross References:
  • James 1:5: “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
  • Jeremiah 29:13: “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

• Analysis: This verse reassures that those who earnestly seek God will receive answers. It emphasizes God’s readiness to respond to our needs.
• Cross References:
  • Luke 11:10: “For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”
  • Proverbs 8:17: “I love those who love me, and those who seek me find me.”

9 “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake?

• Analysis: These verses use the analogy of a parent providing for their child to illustrate God’s goodness and willingness to give us what we need.
• Cross References:
  • Isaiah 49:15: “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!”
  • Luke 11:11-12: “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion?”

11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!

• Analysis: This verse contrasts human imperfection with God’s perfect goodness. If flawed humans can give good gifts, how much more will God, who is perfect, give to those who ask?
• Cross References:
  • James 1:17: “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”
  • Romans 8:32: “He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?”

12 So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.

• Analysis: Known as the Golden Rule, this verse summarizes the ethical teachings of the Law and the Prophets. It calls for treating others as we wish to be treated.
• Cross References:
  • Luke 6:31: “Do to others as you would have them do to you.”
  • Romans 13:8: “Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law.”
  • 1 Peter 4:9‭-‬11 NIVOffer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.

Remember:

The idea that power is inherent in prayer is a very popular one. According to the Bible,

• The power of prayer is, quite simply, the power of God, who hears and answers prayer. Consider the following:

Closing Thoughts

Something to remember when we “think” God is not listening:

God’s Timing

Sometimes, the answer to our prayers is “not yet.” God’s timing is perfect, even if it doesn’t align with our own. Consider

• Ecclesiastes 3:1: “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”

Different Answers

God can answer prayers in various ways: “yes,” “no,” or “wait.” A “no” might be difficult to accept, but it could be for our ultimate good.

• Romans 8:28 reminds us, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Trust in God’s Plan

We might not always understand why our prayers seem unanswered, but trusting in God’s plan is crucial.

• Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages us to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

Persistent Prayer

Jesus taught about the importance of persistent prayer in

• Luke 18:1-8, the parable of the persistent widow. This parable encourages us to keep praying and not lose heart.

Self-Reflection

Sometimes, unanswered prayers can be an invitation to self-reflection. Are there areas in our lives that need change or growth?

• Psalm 139:23-24 says, “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”

Key Takeaways

• Patience and Trust: Trusting in God’s timing and plan is essential, even when we don’t understand it.
• Persistent Prayer: Keep praying and seeking God’s will, knowing that He hears us.
• Self-Reflection: Use the time of waiting to reflect on personal growth and alignment with God’s will.

Romans 8:28 NIV And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Introduction

Context of 1 Corinthians 13 in Paul’s letter.

The importance of faith, hope, and love in Christian life.

1 Corinthians 13:11-13 NIV

[11] When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. [12] For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. [13] And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Faith – The Foundation

Scripture Cross-Reference: Hebrews 11:1 – “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”

Key Points:

Faith is the foundation of a Christian’s relationship with God. It is through faith that believers accept God’s grace, trust in His promises, and commit to following Jesus Christ. Faith acts as the doorway to salvation and a life in alignment with God’s will.

• The role of faith in understanding God’s plan.
• Faith as a response to God’s grace.

Life Application: Trusting in God’s plan even when it’s not fully understood.

Hope – The Anchor

Scripture Cross-Reference: Romans 15:13 – “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

Key Points:

Hope in Christianity is a confident expectation of what God has promised, based on faith. It provides strength and perseverance, especially during challenging times. Hope keeps believers anchored in their trust in God’s goodness and ultimate plan for their lives and the world.

• Hope as a confident expectation of God’s promises.
• The sustaining power of hope in difficult times.
• The Holy Spirit as a source of hope.

Life Application: Cultivating hope through prayer and reliance on the Holy Spirit.

Love – The Greatest Gift

Scripture Cross-Reference: John 13:34-35 – “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”

Key Points:

Love is the greatest virtue in Christianity because it reflects the very nature of God (1 John 4:8). Jesus taught that the greatest commandments are to love God and love others (Matthew 22:37-39). Christian love is about selfless, sacrificial giving and serves as the hallmark of true Christian discipleship.

• Love as the greatest commandment.
• The example of Christ’s sacrificial love.
• Love as an action, not just a feeling.

Life Application: Practicing love in daily interactions.

The Cargo in Your Ship

Conclusion

[13] And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Imagine life as a merchant ship navigating the vast ocean.

Faith: is the solid foundation of that ship, built with unwavering strength to keep it afloat and resilient against the storms. Without this foundation, the ship would not survive the unpredictable seas, much like a life without faith would struggle to withstand challenges and uncertainty.

Hope: is the anchor that steadies the ship when the waters are rough. It holds you firm in place, ensuring that no matter how fierce the winds blow or how high the waves rise, you remain grounded and secure. Hope keeps you from drifting aimlessly, providing a steadfast assurance that the storm will pass and calmer waters will come.

Love: is the greatest gift carried within the ship,

• more precious than any treasure.
• It is the cargo that gives the journey its true meaning and value.
• Love fuels every action, guides every decision, and enriches every relationship.
• It is the purpose of the voyage, the ultimate destination, and the most powerful force on board.

With Faith as your foundation, Hope as your anchor, and Love as the greatest gift, your ship is equipped to sail through life’s challenges, knowing that you are supported, secure, and enriched by these timeless virtues.

Return to the Message

What we have covered:

• What is Learned Helplessness (The Israelites)
• How Joseph Overcame Learned Helplessness (With Forgiveness)
• The importance of Learned Optimism (Ruth’s Story)
• Meditation & Mindfulness (Hannah’s Story)
• Asking for Help (Moses’ Story)

A biblical example of someone asking for help to overcome a difficult situation is Moses, when he sought assistance from his father-in-law, Jethro. This story, found in Exodus 18, illustrates how Moses, overwhelmed by the burden of leading and judging the people of Israel, received guidance and support that helped him manage his responsibilities more effectively.

The Story:

Background:

Moses was leading the Israelites through the wilderness after their escape from Egypt.

• As the leader, Moses was responsible for resolving disputes among the people, which quickly became an overwhelming task due to the sheer number of cases brought before him.

Key Scripture:  (Exodus 18:14)

“When his father-in-law saw all that Moses was doing for the people, he said, ‘What is this you are doing for the people? Why do you alone sit as judge, while all these people stand around you from morning till evening?’”

1. Recognizing the Need for Help:

Moses was handling every dispute among the people on his own, from morning until evening. Jethro observed this and recognized that Moses was overburdened.

Key Scripture: (Exodus 18:15-16)

“Moses answered him, ‘Because the people come to me to seek God’s will. Whenever they have a dispute, it is brought to me, and I decide between the parties and inform them of God’s decrees and instructions.’”

2. Receiving Advice and Help:

Jethro advised Moses to delegate responsibilities to capable men who could handle the simpler cases, leaving the more difficult cases for Moses to judge. This advice helped Moses to better manage his workload and prevent burnout.

Key Scripture:  (Exodus 18:24-26)

“Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said. He chose capable men from all Israel and made them leaders of the people, officials over thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens. They served as judges for the people at all times. The difficult cases they brought to Moses, but the simple ones they decided themselves.”

Application:

1. Asking for Help:

Moses didn’t initially ask for help, but he was open to receiving it when offered. This openness to assistance illustrates the importance of recognizing when we need support and being willing to accept help from others.

2. Delegating Responsibility:

By following Jethro’s advice, Moses learned to delegate tasks, which not only alleviated his burden but also empowered others to take on leadership roles. This shows that asking for help can lead to better outcomes for everyone involved, not just the person seeking help.

3. Breaking the Cycle of Overwhelm:

Moses was caught in a cycle of overwhelm, trying to do everything by himself. Jethro’s intervention helped him break out of this cycle, illustrating how seeking help can be a crucial step in overcoming feelings of helplessness or being overwhelmed.

Conclusion:

Moses’ story demonstrates that asking for help is not a sign of weakness but a wise and necessary step in managing overwhelming situations. By seeking and accepting help, we can:

• break the cycle of learned helplessness,
• find relief from burdens, and empower others to share in the work.

What we have covered:

• What is Learned Helplessness (The Israelites)
• How Joseph Overcame Learned Helplessness (With Forgiveness)
• The importance of Learned Optimism (Ruth’s Story)
• Meditation & Mindfulness (this week)

An excellent example of someone in the Bible who practiced mindfulness, meditation, and trust in God to overcome feelings of helplessness is Hannah, the mother of the prophet Samuel. Her story is found in 1 Samuel 1-2, and it highlights how she dealt with deep emotional pain and helplessness through prayer, reflection, and surrender to God.

What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present and engaged in the current moment, intentionally focusing on your thoughts, feelings, and surroundings without judgment. It involves paying attention to the here and now, rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Through mindfulness, individuals cultivate awareness and clarity, which can lead to greater emotional balance and mental well-being.

What is Meditation?

From a Christian perspective, meditation is a practice of quieting the mind and focusing on God’s presence, His Word, or specific aspects of His character. It often involves prayerful reflection, deep breathing, or repeating Scripture to draw closer to God and experience His peace. Christian meditation helps believers deepen their relationship with God, find spiritual clarity, and strengthen their faith by centering their thoughts on His truths.

Event: Hannah’s Prayer for a Child

Background:

Hannah was one of the two wives of Elkanah, and she was deeply distressed because she was unable to have children. In ancient Israelite culture, being childless was a significant source of shame and sorrow for a woman. To make matters worse, Elkanah’s other wife, Peninnah, had children and would provoke and taunt Hannah about her barrenness. Despite her husband’s love and attempts to comfort her, Hannah’s grief was overwhelming.

The Message

Mindfulness in Prayer: Pouring Out Her Soul

Hannah’s deep anguish over her inability to have children led her to the temple, where she prayed fervently to the Lord. In her prayer, she was fully mindful of her sorrow and laid her pain before God.

Key Scripture:  (1 Samuel 1:10-11)

“In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the Lord, weeping bitterly. And she made a vow, saying, ‘Lord Almighty, if you will only look on your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the Lord for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head.’”

Cross-References:

• Psalm 34:17: “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles.”

This verse emphasizes God’s responsiveness to the cries of those who are in distress, similar to how He heard Hannah’s prayer in her time of need.

• Psalm 62:8: “Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.”

Hannah’s act of pouring out her heart to God is an embodiment of this scripture, showing her trust in God as her refuge in the midst of her anguish.

• Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Hannah’s approach to prayer aligns with this New Testament teaching, as she presents her deep concerns to God, leading to a peace that transcends her circumstances.

Meditation and Trust: Peace After Prayer

After Hannah’s heartfelt prayer, she experienced a transformation from sorrow to peace, trusting that God had heard her petition.

Key Scripture:  (1 Samuel 1:17-18)

“Eli answered, ‘Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.’ She said, ‘May your servant find favor in your eyes.’ Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast.”

Cross-References:

Isaiah 26:3: “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”

Hannah’s change in demeanor after prayer reflects the peace described in Isaiah, which comes from steadfast trust in God.

1 Peter 5:7: “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”

Hannah’s act of casting her anxiety on God is a model of the kind of trust and surrender that Peter encourages.

Faithfulness and Gratitude: Fulfilling Her Vow

When God answered Hannah’s prayer and granted her a son, Samuel, she faithfully fulfilled her vow by dedicating him to the Lord. Her response was one of deep gratitude and worship.

Key Scripture:  (1 Samuel 1:27-28)

“I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he will be given over to the Lord.” And he worshiped the Lord there.

Hannah’s Prayer:  (1 Samuel 2:1-2)

“My heart rejoices in the Lord; in the Lord my horn is lifted high. My mouth boasts over my enemies, for I delight in your deliverance. There is no one holy like the Lord; there is no one besides you; there is no Rock like our God.”

Cross-References:

Psalm 66:16-20: “Come and hear, all you who fear God; let me tell you what he has done for me. I cried out to him with my mouth; his praise was on my tongue. If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened; but God has surely listened and has heard my prayer. Praise be to God, who has not rejected my prayer or withheld his love from me!”

Like Hannah, the psalmist testifies to God’s faithfulness in answering prayer and responds with praise and thanksgiving.

Psalm 116:1-2: “I love the Lord, for he heard my voice; he heard my cry for mercy. Because he turned his ear to me, I will call on him as long as I live.”

This psalm echoes Hannah’s experience of God hearing her cry for mercy, leading to a lifelong commitment to worship and praise.

Luke 1:46-49: “And Mary said: ‘My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has been mindful of the humble state of his servant. From now on all generations will call me blessed, for the Mighty One has done great things for me—holy is his name.’”

Hannah’s prayer of gratitude in 1 Samuel 2 is similar in tone and content to Mary’s Magnificat in the New Testament, both of which express deep joy and thanksgiving for God’s intervention and blessings.

Enduring Legacy: God’s Continued Blessings

Hannah’s faithfulness to God not only resulted in the birth of Samuel, who became a great prophet, but God also continued to bless her with more children, showing His ongoing faithfulness.

Key Scripture:  (1 Samuel 2:21)

“And the Lord was gracious to Hannah; she gave birth to three sons and two daughters. Meanwhile, the boy Samuel grew up in the presence of the Lord.”

Cross-References:

Psalm 127:3: “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.”

This verse highlights the blessing of children as a gift from God, a truth evident in Hannah’s life as she was blessed with more children after Samuel.

Genesis 21:1-2: “Now the Lord was gracious to Sarah as he had said, and the Lord did for Sarah what he had promised. Sarah became pregnant and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the very time God had promised him.”

Just as God was faithful to Sarah, providing her with Isaac in her old age, He was also faithful to Hannah, fulfilling her desires and blessing her with more children.

Psalm 113:9: “He settles the childless woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Praise the Lord.”

This verse directly relates to Hannah’s experience, where God transformed her sorrow into joy by blessing her with children, leading to a life of praise.

Similar Experiences to Hannah Today

Conclusion

Hannah’s story is a profound example of how mindfulness, meditation, and trust in God can lead to overcoming deep sorrow and helplessness. By pouring out her soul in prayer, meditating on God’s goodness, and faithfully fulfilling her vow, Hannah experienced God’s peace, deliverance, and abundant blessings. The cross-references provided highlight the consistency of these themes throughout Scripture, reinforcing the importance of bringing our burdens to God, trusting in His timing, and responding with gratitude when He answers our prayers. Hannah’s story encourages believers to practice these principles in their own lives, trusting that God is faithful to hear and respond to the cries of His people.

Hannah’s story is remarkably similar to the experiences that many people face today, particularly in the areas of personal struggles, emotional pain, and the search for hope and purpose in the midst of challenging circumstances. Here are some key parallels between Hannah’s story and what people experience today:

Emotional Pain and Longing

Parallel with Today:

Hannah’s deep emotional pain and longing for a child resonate with many people today who face similar situations of unfulfilled desires. Whether it’s the longing for a child, a job, a relationship, or any other unmet need, people today can relate to the intense emotional distress that comes from waiting for something deeply desired but not yet received.

Key Experience:

Infertility and Childlessness: Like Hannah, many women and couples today struggle with infertility and the emotional toll it takes. The sense of inadequacy, societal pressure, and the longing to be parents can create a deep sense of helplessness.

Unfulfilled Desires: Beyond infertility, people experience similar emotions when they have other unfulfilled desires, such as wanting to find a life partner, achieve a career goal, or receive healing from illness. The waiting and uncertainty can lead to feelings of despair and frustration.

Modern Application: 

Hannah’s story encourages those who are waiting on God to bring their deepest desires to Him in prayer, just as she did. It reminds people that God hears their cries and can bring peace even before the situation changes.

Feeling Overwhelmed by Circumstances

Parallel with Today:

Hannah’s feelings of being overwhelmed by her circumstances, particularly the taunting from Peninnah and her perceived inadequacy, mirror what many people experience today when they face external pressures and internal doubts.

Key Experience: 

Comparison and Social Pressure: In today’s world, people often feel pressured by societal expectations and comparisons with others. Social media can exacerbate this, where people constantly see the highlights of others’ lives, leading to feelings of inadequacy and despair.

Bullying and Criticism: Just as Peninnah taunted Hannah, people today face bullying, criticism, and judgment from others, which can compound their feelings of helplessness.

Modern Application: 

Hannah’s story shows that turning to God in the midst of overwhelming circumstances can bring relief and strength.

• Instead of allowing the negativity of others to define her,
• Hannah sought God’s perspective, which is a powerful reminder for people today to find their worth and strength in God, not in the opinions of others.

Persistent Prayer and Seeking God’s Help

Parallel with Today:

Hannah’s example of persistent prayer reflects the spiritual journey that many people go through when facing prolonged challenges. Her story encourages people to continue seeking God’s help, even when answers aren’t immediately visible.

Key Experience: 

Persistent Prayer in Difficult Times: Many people today engage in persistent prayer for issues that seem to have no immediate solution—whether it’s praying for a loved one’s salvation, a breakthrough in health, or financial provision. The struggle to remain hopeful and continue praying when answers are delayed is a common experience.

Seeking God Amidst Uncertainty: Like Hannah, people today often face seasons of uncertainty where they must rely on faith, even when the future is unclear. This can be a time of growth, but it can also be challenging to maintain hope.

Modern Application: 

Hannah’s story encourages people to be persistent in prayer, trusting that God hears and values their petitions. Her example shows that even when the answer is delayed, God is still at work, and peace can be found in His presence.

Finding Peace Through Surrender

Parallel with Today:

After Hannah poured out her heart to God, she found peace through surrendering her situation to Him. This is a crucial lesson for people today who are struggling with control and anxiety over their circumstances.

Key Experience: 

Surrendering to God’s Will: Many people struggle with the tension between their desires and God’s timing or will. The process of surrendering control and trusting that God knows best is a common spiritual journey. This can involve letting go of specific outcomes and trusting in God’s goodness, even if the situation doesn’t unfold as expected.

Dealing with Anxiety and Uncertainty: People today face a great deal of anxiety and uncertainty, whether it’s about the future, health, or relationships. Finding peace in the midst of these challenges often requires surrendering those worries to God.

Modern Application: 

Hannah’s story illustrates the power of surrendering one’s burdens to God. After she prayed, she was able to leave her burdens with God and experience peace. This teaches people today that true peace often comes not from having all the answers but from trusting that God is in control.

Faithful Response to God’s Blessings

Parallel with Today:

When God answered Hannah’s prayer and gave her a son, she responded with faithfulness by dedicating Samuel to the Lord. Her gratitude and commitment to fulfill her vow to God serve as a model for how people today can respond when God answers their prayers.

Key Experience:

Faithful Stewardship of God’s Blessings: When people receive blessings or answers to prayer, they face the challenge of how to respond. Like Hannah, there is often a call to use those blessings for God’s glory, whether it’s raising children in the faith, using financial resources to bless others, or serving God with the gifts He’s given.

Gratitude and Worship: Hannah’s gratitude and worship in response to God’s blessing is an example of how people today can cultivate a heart of thanksgiving, recognizing that every good gift comes from God.

Modern Application: 

Hannah’s faithfulness encourages people to honor God with the blessings they receive. It’s a reminder to stay committed to God and to use what He provides for His purposes. Her prayer of thanksgiving also highlights the importance of maintaining a grateful heart,acknowledging God’s faithfulness in all circumstances.

Conclusion

Hannah’s story is deeply relatable to many of the struggles people face today, from dealing with unfulfilled desires and social pressure to navigating persistent prayer, surrender, and faithful response to God’s blessings. Her example provides timeless lessons on how to bring one’s burdens to God, find peace through surrender, and respond with faithfulness and gratitude. In a world where people often feel overwhelmed by their circumstances, Hannah’s story offers hope and a path forward, demonstrating that God hears, cares, and is faithful to those who seek Him with all their hearts.

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A great example of a woman in the Bible who exhibited learned optimism is Ruth. Ruth’s story is found in the Book of Ruth, and it showcases her resilience, faith, and positive outlook in the face of difficult circumstances.

Ruth’s Story:

Tragedy and Loss:

Ruth was a Moabite woman who married into an Israelite family that had moved to Moab due to a famine in their homeland. Tragically, Ruth’s husband, along with his father and brother, died, leaving Ruth, her sister-in-law Orpah, and her mother-in-law Naomi as widows (Ruth 1:1-5).

• In ancient times, being a widow without a male protector was particularly precarious, as women had limited rights and means of support.

Choosing Loyalty and Faithfulness:

After the deaths of their husbands, Naomi decided to return to Bethlehem in Israel, her homeland. She urged Ruth and Orpah to stay in Moab and remarry. While Orpah eventually returned to her family, Ruth made the remarkable decision to stay with Naomi, uttering the famous words: “Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God” (Ruth 1:16).

• Ruth’s choice demonstrated her deep loyalty and faithfulness, not only to Naomi but also to Naomi’s God. This decision set the stage for her learned optimism, as she embraced an uncertain future with trust and determination.

Hard Work and Perseverance:

Upon arriving in Bethlehem, Ruth immediately took initiative to provide for herself and Naomi. She went to glean in the fields, a practice allowed for the poor to collect leftover grain after the harvesters had passed through (Ruth 2:2-3).

• Ruth’s willingness to work hard in a foreign land, despite the potential dangers and difficulties, showed her perseverance and positive attitude. She did not succumb to despair but sought opportunities to improve her situation.

Finding Favor with Boaz:

Ruth’s optimism and hard work caught the attention of Boaz, a wealthy landowner and relative of Naomi. He admired Ruth for her loyalty to Naomi and her diligence in the fields. Boaz ensured that Ruth was protected and provided extra grain for her to take home (Ruth 2:8-12).

• Ruth’s respectful and humble demeanor, coupled with her unwavering commitment to Naomi, led to Boaz extending his protection and eventually pursuing her as a wife.

Redemption and Blessing:

Naomi recognized that Boaz could be a “kinsman-redeemer,” a relative who could marry Ruth and thereby preserve her deceased husband’s lineage. Following Naomi’s advice, Ruth approached Boaz at the threshing floor and asked him to redeem her (Ruth 3:6-9).

• Boaz agreed, and after resolving some legal matters, he married Ruth. This union not only provided Ruth and Naomi with security but also placed Ruth in the lineage of King David and, ultimately, Jesus Christ (Ruth 4:13-17).

Key Aspects of Ruth’s Learned Optimism:

Faith in the Midst of Uncertainty:

Ruth’s decision to leave her homeland and follow Naomi to Bethlehem was an act of profound faith. She trusted in Naomi’s God and chose to move forward, despite the uncertainty of what lay ahead.

Positive Action in Adversity:

Instead of resigning herself to a life of poverty and despair, Ruth took positive action by gleaning in the fields. Her willingness to work hard and take initiative reflected a hopeful and proactive mindset.

Trust in God’s Provision:

Ruth’s optimism was deeply rooted in her trust in God’s provision. She believed that God would provide for her and Naomi, and her faith was rewarded when she found favor with Boaz.

Loyalty and Love:

Ruth’s unwavering loyalty to Naomi and her compassionate love drove her to make courageous choices. Her positive attitude and actions not only changed her own life but also brought joy and restoration to Naomi.

Blessing and Redemption:

Ruth’s story is one of redemption and blessing. Her learned optimism—expressed through faith, hard work, and love—led to her becoming the great-grandmother of King David and being included in the genealogy of Jesus Christ.

Conclusion:

Ruth is a powerful biblical example of learned optimism. Her life demonstrates that even in the face of loss and uncertainty, faith, loyalty, and hard work can lead to profound blessings and redemption. Ruth’s story encourages us to trust in God’s provision, to take positive actions in the midst of adversity, and to remain hopeful, knowing that God can turn even the most difficult circumstances into a source of blessing and legacy.

Return to the Message

Last week we learned about the role of Forgiveness to overcome Learned Helplessness from Joseph.

This week we are going to discover Learned Optimism in overcoming Learned Helplessness.

Learned Optimism is the direct opposite of Learned Helplessness

Learned optimism is a powerful tool for improving your mental and emotional well-being. By adopting a more optimistic explanatory style and challenging negative thoughts, you can:

• increase your resilience,
• improve your problem-solving abilities, and
• enhance your overall life satisfaction.

The practice of learned optimism encourages you to see setbacks as opportunities for growth and to approach life with a positive, hopeful mindset.

The Message

The story of Ruth is rich with moments that illustrate her learned optimism, faith, and perseverance.

Background:

The Book of Ruth is a story from the Hebrew Bible that centers on the themes of loyalty, faith, and redemption. It follows Ruth, a Moabite woman who, after the death of her husband, chooses to stay with her Israelite mother-in-law, Naomi, rather than return to her own people. Ruth’s devotion to Naomi leads them back to Bethlehem, where Ruth works in the fields of Boaz, a relative of Naomi. Boaz, impressed by Ruth’s loyalty and kindness, eventually marries her, ensuring the family’s lineage and providing for their future. The story ends with Ruth becoming the great-grandmother of King David, highlighting God’s providence and the inclusion of Gentiles in His plan.

More of Ruth’s Story

Ruth’s Decision to Stay with Naomi

Ruth 1:16-17: 

“But Ruth replied, ‘Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.’”

Cross-References:

Joshua 24:15: “But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”

• Ruth’s declaration mirrors the choice of the Israelites to serve the Lord, emphasizing the importance of choosing faith even in challenging circumstances.

Proverbs 17:17: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”

• Ruth’s loyalty to Naomi reflects the deep, selfless love and commitment described in this proverb.

Ruth’s Hard Work and Perseverance

Ruth 2:2-3: 

“And Ruth the Moabite said to Naomi, ‘Let me go to the fields and pick up the leftover grain behind anyone in whose eyes I find favor.’ Naomi said to her, ‘Go ahead, my daughter.’ So she went out, entered a field and began to glean behind the harvesters. As it turned out, she was working in a field belonging to Boaz, who was from the clan of Elimelek.”

Cross-References:

Proverbs 31:17: “She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.”

• Ruth’s initiative and hard work are similar to the virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman, who is diligent and industrious.

Galatians 6:9: “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

• Ruth’s perseverance in gleaning the fields is an embodiment of this New Testament principle, showing that consistent, faithful work yields a reward.

Ruth Finds Favor with Boaz

Ruth 2:10-12:

“At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, ‘Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?’ Boaz replied, ‘I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.’”

Cross-References:

Psalm 91:4: “He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.”

• Boaz’s blessing to Ruth resonates with this psalm, as she has sought refuge under God’s wings, and God is beginning to provide for her.

Hebrews 6:10: “God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.”

• Boaz’s recognition of Ruth’s deeds and his prayer for her reward reflect the truth that God honors and remembers our acts of love and kindness.

Ruth’s Approach to Boaz for Redemption

Ruth 3:9-11: 

“‘Who are you?’ he asked. ‘I am your servant Ruth,’ she said. ‘Spread the corner of your garment over me, since you are a guardian-redeemer of our family.’ ‘The Lord bless you, my daughter,’ he replied. ‘This kindness is greater than that which you showed earlier: You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor. And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character.’”

Cross-References:

Ezekiel 16:8: “‘Later I passed by, and when I looked at you and saw that you were old enough for love, I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your naked body. I gave you my solemn oath and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Sovereign Lord, and you became mine.’”

• Ruth’s request for Boaz to spread his garment over her is symbolic of protection and covenant, much like God’s covenant with Israel.

Proverbs 31:10-11: “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.”

• Boaz’s description of Ruth as a woman of noble character echoes the virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman, highlighting her worthiness.

Ruth’s Blessing and Inclusion in the Lineage of David

Ruth 4:13-17: 

“So Boaz took Ruth and she became his wife. When he made love to her, the Lord enabled her to conceive, and she gave birth to a son. The women said to Naomi: ‘Praise be to the Lord, who this day has not left you without a guardian-redeemer. May he become famous throughout Israel! He will renew your life and sustain you in your old age. For your daughter-in-law, who loves you and who is better to you than seven sons, has given him birth.’ Then Naomi took the child in her arms and cared for him. The women living there said, ‘Naomi has a son!’ And they named him Obed. He was the father of Jesse, the father of David.”

Cross-References:

Matthew 1:5-6: “Salmon the father of Boaz, whose mother was Rahab, Boaz the father of Obed, whose mother was Ruth, Obed the father of Jesse, and Jesse the father of King David.”

• Ruth’s inclusion in the genealogy of David, and ultimately Jesus Christ, underscores her legacy of faith and learned optimism.

Psalm 37:4: “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

• Ruth’s story illustrates this promise, as her faithfulness and optimism led to God fulfilling the desires of her heart.

Conclusion

Ruth’s story is a profound example of learned optimism, as she faced significant challenges with faith, loyalty, and perseverance. These key scriptures, along with their cross-references, demonstrate how

• Ruth’s positive actions and trust in God led to blessings that extended far beyond her lifetime,
• including her role in the lineage of King David and Jesus Christ.
• Ruth’s life encourages us to remain faithful and optimistic, trusting that God is working through our circumstances for a greater purpose.

There are two main approaches:

• Forgiving in the Moment
• A Receptive Heart

In the examples provided, most of the individuals did not actively pursue those who had wronged them. Instead, they kept a receptive and forgiving heart, ready to reconcile when the opportunity arose. Here’s a closer look:

Joseph:

Receptive Heart: Joseph did not pursue his brothers after they sold him into slavery. Instead, he focused on his circumstances in Egypt, rising to a position of power. When his brothers came to Egypt seeking food, Joseph tested them and ultimately revealed his identity, showing a forgiving heart and readiness to reconcile (Genesis 45:1-15).

David:

Receptive Heart: David did not pursue King Saul to harm him, despite being pursued by Saul. David had multiple opportunities to kill Saul but chose not to, demonstrating his respect for Saul as God’s anointed king and his desire for reconciliation (1 Samuel 24:10-12; 26:9-11).

Stephen:

Forgiving in the Moment: Stephen forgave his executioners while he was being stoned, praying for them as he was dying. He did not pursue those who wronged him but maintained a forgiving heart even in his final moments (Acts 7:59-60).

Jesus:

Forgiving in the Moment: Jesus forgave those who crucified Him while He was on the cross, praying for their forgiveness despite their actions. He did not pursue them but kept a heart of forgiveness (Luke 23:34).

Peter:

Receptive Heart: Peter did not actively seek out Jesus for forgiveness after denying Him. Instead, Jesus initiated the reconciliation, and Peter’s receptive heart allowed him to accept Jesus’ forgiveness and restoration (John 21:15-19).

The Prodigal Son’s Father:

Receptive Heart: The father in the parable did not pursue his wayward son. Instead, he waited with an open and forgiving heart, ready to welcome his son back when he returned home (Luke 15:20-24).

Paul:

Receptive Heart: Paul did not actively seek out those who had persecuted him once he became a Christian. He focused on his mission and ministry, showing forgiveness and grace to those who opposed him throughout his journey (2 Timothy 4:16-18).

Esau:

Receptive Heart: Esau did not pursue Jacob to seek revenge for the stolen birthright and blessing. Instead, he lived his life, and when the opportunity for reconciliation came, he embraced Jacob and forgave him (Genesis 33:4-11).

Conclusion:

In each of these cases, the individuals maintained a receptive and forgiving heart rather than actively pursuing those who had wronged them. They were open to reconciliation and forgiveness when the opportunity presented itself, demonstrating the power of a forgiving and gracious heart in overcoming learned helplessness and past hurts.

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