Sermon Introduction – Week 4: Taming the Tongue

There’s a saying that goes, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” It sounds tough… but it’s a lie.
- Ask anyone who’s been cut down by a parent’s criticism…
- Who’s carried the weight of a reckless comment from someone they trusted…
- Who’s heard gossip destroy reputations in minutes…
- Words do hurt. And according to James, they do more than that—they reveal what’s going on inside us.
In a world where words are cheap and constant—texted, posted, streamed, or shouted—we need more than just good intentions. We need spiritual maturity that shows up in our speech. And James doesn’t let us off easy: “The tongue is a fire… it corrupts the whole body… no human being can tame it.”
But James isn’t just trying to shame us—he’s calling us to something better. To a faith that’s not just vocal, but disciplined. Not just expressive, but submitted to God.
Note: This message is not just about communication. It’s about transformation. Because if God can change our words… He’s changing our hearts.
Series Title: Faith That Works
Week 4A: Taming the Tongue
Text: James 3:1–12 Big Idea:Faith that works learns to bridle the tongue—it reveals maturity, humility, and submission to God’s control.
I. The Tongue Carries Great Influence
James 3:1–5a (NIV)
1 Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. 2 We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check. 3 When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4 Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts.
Cross References:
- Proverbs 18:21 – “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
- Matthew 12:36–37 – “But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” (1 Corinthians 3:10-15)
- Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Why We Struggle: We underestimate the weight of our words. In a culture of free speech and quick replies, we forget that small words can steer big consequences.
Theological Summary: Words reveal spiritual maturity. Because teachers shape lives with words, careless speech among them—and among all believers—is no small matter. The ability to guide with integrity reflects one under God’s direction.
Know This: Your tongue may be small, but it is never insignificant. It either leads others closer to Christ—or away from Him.
II. The Tongue Has Destructive Power
James 3:5b–8 (NIV)
5b Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. (See Notes) 7 All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, 8 but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
Cross References:
- Psalm 140:3 – “They make their tongues as sharp as a serpent’s; the poison of vipers is on their lips.”
- Proverbs 26:20–21 – “Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down.”
- James 1:19-20 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
Why We Struggle: Our tongues are reflexive. In moments of frustration or pride, they ignite before our conscience can catch up.
Theological Summary: The tongue reveals the corruption within. Though we can subdue wild beasts, our mouths remain untamable apart from divine intervention.It is a spiritual battleground—and it must be yielded to the Spirit.
2 Corinthians 10:4-5 The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. 5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
Know This: Unbridled words may leave scars that outlive apologies. Only God can tame a tongue set on fire by hell.
III. The Tongue Reveals the Heart
James 3:9–12 (NIV)
9 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. (Imago Dei) 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. 11 Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? 12 My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.
Cross References:
- Matthew 12:34 – “For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”
- Luke 6:45 – “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart… for the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”
- Genesis 1:27 – “So God created mankind in his own image… male and female he created them.” (Imago Dei)
Note: (Imago Dei)
Even though James only uses the phrase “made in God’s likeness” once, the implications of the image of God are present throughout his letter—especially in:
- How we treat the poor (James 2:1–7)
- How we speak (James 3:1–12)
- Our responsibility to act justly and humbly (James 1:27; 4:6)
The moral logic of James assumes the value and dignity of every person—because they are made in God’s image
Why We Struggle: We try to compartmentalize. We speak blessing in public and criticism in private, failing to see that both spring from the same heart.
Theological Summary:Speech is not neutral—it reflects either spiritual consistency or hypocrisy. The same mouth cannot produce praise and poison unless the heart is divided.
Know This: Your words will always point back to your heart. A spring can’t produce two kinds of water. (reflexive)
Note: 2 Corinthians 13:5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you—unless, of course, you fail the test?
APPLICATION
HEAD (What to Believe):
Words reveal spiritual maturity. God holds us accountable for every one of them.
HEART (What to Feel):
Convicted by careless speech. A deeper longing for a purified heart and tongue.
HAND (What to Do):
- Pause before you speak this week—especially in frustration.
- Repent of any gossip, slander, or harshness.
- Replace reactive speech with Spirit-led words—start in your home.
Key Takeaways:
- The tongue steers the direction of your life.
- No one can tame the tongue—without God.
- Your words reveal your spiritual condition.
- Speak with the awareness that your mouth can worship—or wound.
Close
James 1:19-20 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.